To say that being a gamer’s partner is an ‘adjustment’, is an understatement. Gaming is not a hobby to them – it’s a way of life.
To them compromise doesn’t come easily and as far as your gamer’s concerned, you are the one that has to adapt to their virtual habits.
You will be faced with several challenges, unpredictable barriers, and invisible lines that leads to catastrophe when crossed. It’s a delicate set-up, but easily manageable if you have the right ammunition.
So, from personal experience, I have compiled a list of guidelines to help fellow non-gamers navigate the system.
Let them play
This is by no means easy, and I doubt what you expected from the first piece of advice. But I figured, heck, let’s start with the most difficult one. And that is to let them play.
Sauntering into their lives and demanding them to lay down their consoles, so you can claim all the attention, won’t play out too well.
Many gamers are creatures of habit, and in their minds, you are raising the banners for anarchy.
The key is to gradually let them get accustomed to the new feature [i.e. you] in their lives. This calls for a lot of compromise and compensating, but keep in mind that this is something that they love and are passionate about. Don’t take that away from them.
Of course, the tale of caution goes – don’t let them take advantage of this. There is a limit.
‘One more game’
Never have three words been more dangerous: ‘One more game’ never means ‘one more game’.
Do not be fooled by this deceitful phrase and with accompanying words such as ‘honey’, ‘baby’, or ‘love’, does not make it sincere – this is another devious tactic.
This is where knowing the game’s time limit becomes vital. Do not let your gamer cheat you out of time, because you don’t know when the game really ends.
Don’t give in too easily when asked for ‘one more game’. If you cave too often, odds are it’s going to count against you in the future.
Learn their language
It is tempting to simply tune out when your gamer dives into a heated conversation about updates, new features, or character’s abilities, but consider this – wouldn’t it be more bearable if you knew only a little bit of what he/she was talking about?
Sometimes it’s worth going the extra mile in learning a few words or phrases associated with the game.
There’s a universal language with words such as ‘scrub’ and ‘noob’, which comes in handy more than you might think, and then the jargon paired with each game.